"He makes me so angry!"
"I wish I wouldn't ever have to see her anymore!"
"I wish I never met him."
These could all be termed desperate cries.... any one of them a serious cry for help.
"Please help me save my troubled relationship!"
The first thing you would want to do is probably the last thing you should do. That doesn't make much sense ... does it? The first move you most likely will want to do .. after getting angry and screaming and crying to the wall... or the slammed door... then sitting in stunned numbness ... is to get on the phone and begin calling... begging and pleading and avowing your love ... promising and hoping.... and making the rift wider and wider.
Then .. when the calling proves to bring no results ... how about email? A thousand emails won't fix things.. it will again only make the rift wider. Text messages?
Riding by her place.... trying in catch a glimpse of her.. that won't work either. All of those things cause more problems... make the trouble deeper and deeper.
The first thing you need to do is counterintuitive to everything you would want to do.
You need to agree.
You need to agree that the breakup is a good idea... a good thing for both of you. Then you need to fight every impulse in you to keep from making any contact of any kind.
If you have already begun the calling and emailing and text messaging when reading this.. then you need to write a short letter apologizing for it all... then follow with that first counterintuitive step mentioned above..... agree.
Once you have agreed and fought every impulse to make contact... you will wait for a call from her. It will come... and when it does.... it will most likely be for a reason that will get you two together.... in one way or another... and you will again have to react counter to all you would want to do. You need to say no... that your day is too busy.. your schedule won't allow it.. but how nice it was to get the call.. maybe some time later.
It sounds all wrong.. doesn't it? It really is not. This is simply allowing that proverbial "space" ... allowing her to begin to know what she really wants. If that is you.. this tactic is the only one that will work.
If you are emitting that cry for help ... "save my troubled realtionship!" .. you need to follow the advice of T Dub Jackson .. which is his advice above for your first move in mendign a broken realtionship.
The next step will be to arrange for a time to meet .. to have coffee .. to visit.
However ... there are many steps in between the second and third steps.. and you do not want to take any chances of getting those steps wrong.
For instance .. one thing you may do inadvertently wrong when meeting for coffee that first time could be called "premature reconciliation".
It can happen when a guy or girl is trying to win back the affections of their ex. Many times they start to make headway... then go too far when the ex shows signs of reattachment .. perhaps pushing things too quickly and sabotaging the whole thing.
This is spoken of clearly in the video here.
If this realtionship is real to you .. if your life is not whole without it... then you just cannot afford not to look at this realtionship help ... it is like none other.
Find out the other counterintuitive steps between step 2 and step 3 and you can supress your cry for help ... and will end up saying ... "I know I can save my troubled relationship .... I know now how to do it.....".and you will get the help you need form the person who has helped thousands of others.
Get to that strong confident place in your life. Learn "how to save my troubled relationship" . with this scruffy looking man who has no degree for what he does .. unless you call life's experience worth a degree or two.
You will never look back ... and you will become so confident in the relationship you save .. you will know nothing will ever break it again.
